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My journey to self love: dealing with self hate (Intermission)

Some days ago I revealed in a blog post how I grew to hate myself. Since writing that post, I have gotten alot of messages and some phone calls encouraging me and giving me the most positive feedback I could have ever imagined. For that, I say thank you.

Some people felt like it wasn't that serious and I blew silly childish comments out of proportion, I can't comprehend how someone else will want to tell me how I should feel about my experiences to be honest. I felt what I felt and I grew past those feelings eventually, that's just it.

All I wanted was for people to see my imperfect life and somehow relate to it. Funny how the post where I was the most vulnerable quickly became one of the most popular posts on the website in a few hours.

In this post, I will be sharing some of the feedback I have gotten from my last post. To hear people share their stories and comments with me has been the most rewarding thing since all I wanted was for people to relate my story.

"I can so relate to all this. All the self hate I had to go through. Pretending to be fine and happy on the outside but dying deep down on the inside. I felt ugly, unpleasant and disgusting. I started to hide and stay indoors at some point. But thanks be to God for helping me. Thanks Sike for sharing this. Many people don't know how much of a bold step this is. Bless you baby." - Shogwe

"I think ladies could learn a lot from the topic in question. Self love is the first step to self confidence, you can't trust others if you don't have even the slightest bit of regard for them. The same applies to self. If you don't love yourself you can't trust yourself to accept and enjoy the little things. Compliments Like You're beautiful start sounding Like a lie or flattery because you don't think You're deserving of such pleasantries. But ladies, everyone infact, but ladies especially need to learn to love themselves, accept their mistakes, forgive themselves, and make conscious efforts towards their own happiness, and by extension that of those around them. I'm so proud of you for sharin. I think its very brave." - Great

" The stuff in this post is very relatable. People make such damaging jokes sometimes without realising how it might affect the person being jokes about. We need to try to be more sensitive even with what we joke about, your joke may be leaving long term scars." - Pelly

" Your post is truly inspiring. I suffered from the same pain as you did. I was skinny really skinny and small. People called me names and i pretended to not care. It affected my self image and bouts with depression made it even worse. It would take years for me to finally accept and love my self. Only if everyone around me then could understand that it was the genes. " - Emmanuel of

" I can relate to this.. There was a time my family sat me down and said I'm getting too fat and I need to start working out(because I'm on the busty side) ..I didn't even know what to do cos I tried starving.. Waking up early despite my busy schedule to exercise but things didn't work out.
Worst of all when I entered the university.. People started saying things like "aren't you a med student.. You're meant to be reducing but you're growing fatter"(it's not like I'm very fat like that sef).. I didn't know what to do sef ..but this post has helped me mehn! I know now that I'm not alone in the struggle. Thanks. This is good stuff. " - Anonymous

" Oh my dear, had no idea of all that, but with your size and the pimples you were still our best daughter that we loved and always are still proud of you. " - My Aunty Kyaru

" I can just remember you in you primary school uniform. So that is what these silly boys and adults were taunting you. If you had told me, I would dealt with them ooh. 😁😁😁😁. On a serious note sha, NO PAIN, NO GAIN." -My mum

For more, check the comment section of my first post, I am honoured that people shared their struggles with self image there.

The next part of my journey will be uploaded in a few hours, stay tuned.

See you in my next post, xoxo.

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through fire, you will not be scorched, Nor will the flame burn you.

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  1. The people in the second paragraph, send them to me, I'm ready to fight. 🥊🥊